Can a child recover from emotional abuse?
Sep.07, 2007 in
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notadomesticgoddess asked:
If a child is emotionally abused, told what to think and feel and say from the time he can talk, what does his future look like as an adult? Since it’s his mother doing the emotional abuse and he looks up to and trusts her what does that predict about his future relationships/marriage? His father and mother were never together and she has serious anger/resentment/jealousy issues and constantly tells the child that he hates his father, his father’s children (his half siblings), his stepmother and the whole other side of the family until this child is such an emotional wreck he can’t decide if he likes strawberry or raspberry jelly on his sandwich and says “What do you think my mom would want?” Is there hope? Does karma really work? Does prayer really work? We’ve been praying for over 6 years for his emotional health!! Will he someday realize how much WE love him and how HORRIBLE she is?
To be more specific, I am the stepmom, he lives with us part time. When he’s here he is relaxed, happy and when it’s time to go back to his moms he will say, “Can I please stay with you? Why do I have to go back?” He’s 7. We have never nor will we ever say anything negative about his mom but she fills his head constantly! She even told him - when he was 4 - that I was going to kill him in his bed. Lately I’ve noticed that he’s becoming much more attached to me - when I go to the grocery store he want to come with, sitting on my lap while watching a movie, etc - and I’m wondering if he’s subconciously trying to replace her with me? Or just grateful I give him affection and love without all the negativity? I think about this problem and him every single hour of every single day, I have lost so much sleep worrying about him and his future. Thank you guys for letting me get it all out! His dad is concerned also but won’t act on anything and I’m just the stepparent and don’t have much say.
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If a child is emotionally abused, told what to think and feel and say from the time he can talk, what does his future look like as an adult? Since it’s his mother doing the emotional abuse and he looks up to and trusts her what does that predict about his future relationships/marriage? His father and mother were never together and she has serious anger/resentment/jealousy issues and constantly tells the child that he hates his father, his father’s children (his half siblings), his stepmother and the whole other side of the family until this child is such an emotional wreck he can’t decide if he likes strawberry or raspberry jelly on his sandwich and says “What do you think my mom would want?” Is there hope? Does karma really work? Does prayer really work? We’ve been praying for over 6 years for his emotional health!! Will he someday realize how much WE love him and how HORRIBLE she is?
To be more specific, I am the stepmom, he lives with us part time. When he’s here he is relaxed, happy and when it’s time to go back to his moms he will say, “Can I please stay with you? Why do I have to go back?” He’s 7. We have never nor will we ever say anything negative about his mom but she fills his head constantly! She even told him - when he was 4 - that I was going to kill him in his bed. Lately I’ve noticed that he’s becoming much more attached to me - when I go to the grocery store he want to come with, sitting on my lap while watching a movie, etc - and I’m wondering if he’s subconciously trying to replace her with me? Or just grateful I give him affection and love without all the negativity? I think about this problem and him every single hour of every single day, I have lost so much sleep worrying about him and his future. Thank you guys for letting me get it all out! His dad is concerned also but won’t act on anything and I’m just the stepparent and don’t have much say.
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