“So what do we do with this time together?” you might ask. Simple: Talk to each other.

That sound you hear is all the husbands moaning and groaning and feeling betrayed that another male is actually suggesting this to their wives.

Be that as it may, there is no substitute for talking to each other on a regular basis. This can be about almost anything, as long as it is mutual.

2. Many of us had the word “honor” in our wedding vows. So what does it really mean, anyway?

Webster’s defines honor in this way: “to hold in the highest esteem.” Consider what your marriage might be like if you viewed your partner as precious to you, as someone to hold in the highest esteem. What would it feel like to be treated in this way by your partner? Might you then want to return the honor?

3. Many people believe apologies are a show of weakness. Quite the opposite is true.

The ability to apologize shows a strength of character that is a strong predictor of successful marriages. Often, the apology has more benefit to the one giving it than the one receiving it.

4. Everyone likes to feel appreciated. There are at least two ways to demonstrate appreciation. One is to show appreciation for things that have been done. This might sound like, “Thank you for taking the kids to the doctor,” or, “Thank you for understanding when I felt sick today.”

Sometimes, an even stronger form of appreciation is for the positive qualities of a person. This could sound like, “I really appreciate your sense of humor,” or, “I appreciate your patience with me.”

Either way, a little appreciation can go a long way.

5. It’s important that you share with each other your hopes and dreams. Anticipating together has at least three benefits: It helps couples to bond with each other; it gives hope for the future; it gives couples “light at the end of the tunnel” in the tough times that come in all relationships.

So there you have them, five quick and easy things you can do to improve even the best of relationships.

Here is one more thing to consider:

What could your relationship be like if you were able to do these five things regularly?

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Summer Altice wrote, “People are taken aback by a confident, pretty girl who knows what she wants in life and isn’t going to let anyone get in her way. And you know what it’s all about? Jealousy.” We could substitute anyone for the “pretty girl” and Altice sums up the whole idea of why detractors are challenged and moved to take potshots at others.

Often we think of jealousy when we are talking about relationships and love, but it can take on many more personas.

I spent this past weekend at a storyteller’s retreat which was a long drive from my home. On the way, I re-listened to Anne Lamott’s Bird by Bird, Some Instructions on Writing and Life. She includes a whole chapter on Jealousy.

She wrote, “Jealousy is such a direct attack on whatever measure of confidence you’ve been able to muster. But if you continue to write, you are probably going to have to deal with it, because some wonderful, dazzling successes are going to happen for some of the most awful, angry, undeserving writer you know – people who are, in other words, not you.”

Lamott continues writing about another writer who calls often to tell her about the wonderful successes occurring in that writer’s life. In her honest and no-holds-barred style, Lamott admits to her jealousy of and bad feelings for this writer. Her final way of dealing with the situation was to look for the humor, write about it and finally tell her writer friend that she “needed a sabbatical” from their friendship.

One point that she did touch on is that we are brought up in an extremely competitive society, so it is usual to feel some envy for another who is doing better, while we seem to be treading water. And yet, we are always told to be “happy for others” when they succeed or win. After all, we are supposed to always be “good sports.”

I think that the following quotations put interesting spins on jealousy:

• Washington Irving wrote, “There is never jealousy where there is not strong regard.”
• Buzz Aldrin wrote, “I was an outsider. I was the egghead from academia who got in because the rules had changed. While I looked for validation from my fellow contemporaries, I instead found jealousy and envy. I did not find team spirit. This led to dissatisfaction, an unease.”
• Fulton J. Sheen wrote, “Jealousy is the tribute mediocrity pays to genius.”
• And Erica Jong wrote, “Jealousy is all the fun you think they had.”

I tend toward Jong’s light-hearted approach, and yet, after hearing Lamott and reading the various thoughts on jealousy, I started wondering if any jealousy of others or others’ jealousy of me was corroding my thoughts and energy.

What about you? Do you think or feel that jealousy is natural? Is it harmful, or when is it harmful?

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Aside of the excuses and the blames leveled against one another as the guilty party in the relationship whenever a fall-out occurs, the two of you should take time out to consider how you were able to get yourselves to this stage or point.

There is a need to identify the root cause of the conflict(s) that arise from time to time otherwise it will get into a routine which will eventually weaken your relationship to the point of separation or breakup in addition to making your hearts sour, bitter and battered during the entire process.

How do you resolve conflict in a relationship?

There are several approaches to resolving conflicts and these differ from one situation to the other. However, there are issues that run central to any method or approach adopted.

First, the two of you must agree that there exists a conflict. This is the first step in a right direction to resolving conflict(s) or misunderstanding(s).

You must have realized that even with marriages made in ‘heaven’ or relationships built to last, misunderstandings (or conflicts) must surely arise.

Second, the two of you must be willing to reconcile and get your relationship going once again. As best as possible, one party cannot resolve a conflict in isolation; it must be between the two lovers concerned and both of you must display some level of readiness to mend fences.

Third, the two of you must realize upfront that getting to resolve any conflict will involve compromise on both sides. There is bound to be a shift in position held as a result of the conflict situation.

Fourth, the two of you must also realize and generously accept that resolving the conflict will end in a win-win situation. You should not expect to come out as the triumphant partner and your spouse the loser.

Both of you must concede for each other in one area or the other. This way, the feeling becomes mutual and the responsibilities for allowing the conflict arise in the first instance must be borne by the two of you.

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When we first decided to move in together he had to remark about closet space. Ok, in all fairness giving him closet space is fine. He does actually hang up his clothes from time to time. So I gave him half the closet. What do I find. After complaining about needing closet space only a quarter of it is used. My God, help me if I invade the other three quarters not in use. It is like power tools. He needs them. Even if he probably will not use that particular power tool. Why do we have it? His version “one of these days we may just need it”.

Home Depot, yes a wonderful place to go at times. He always looks like a kid in a candy store when we go there. Silly me I let him go to the power tools. He feels, fondles, drools and touches just about every tool there. I swear at times I wish I was a power tool.

Ok, I admit recently I had two “what the hell was I thinking”? moments. First I give him a computer to use. Cool. This is fine. He gets online. Great nothing wrong with that after all that is what they are for. Searching the web. Unfortunately for me he finds sears.com. Ut-oh! Which now explains the craftsman tool box on the way to our house. I do believe I received a “I love you” out of the deal. Ok, this one was not totally his fault. We needed to get a cordless drill for my brother. So off to Wal-Mart we go. We get to the tool isle. In all fairness to my life partner I had let him purchase a drill also. Sounds fair? Well yes. Could I have left it at that? Oh, no. I believe I suffered an alien mind melt at this point. Now I should know better by this time to never make eye contact with him. I got that dam look. The same look he gave me the first time that captured my heart. Somehow during my mind melt, not only did I let him buy a few more tools, I helped him. I am currently seeking counseling for this condition.

Like most persons in the world. We need our morning coffee fix. Now I happen to like coffee in the morning. Not colored water. His complaint is it is too strong. I have to chuckle over that one. I have a big strong man here yet he can not handle an innocent cup of coffee. So much for the stronger of the sex theory.

Then there is NASCAR Racing. Now personally I love racing. Lots of women do. Here is my complaint. If I was in labor with contractions three minutes apart. He would look at me with the straightest face and reply “can’t you wait”.

The best on my list is the television remote. He has to hold it. Like it is some sacred idol or something. My God if it becomes lost. He could probably seriously look at me and say “How can I change the channels now”? Smack to the back of the head. Of course, this remote thing gets worse. Unfortunately, we have Dish Network. So our little neat remote gives him the ability to rewind any event he wants. I think I sat through a rewind of a car crash sixty-two times before we went back to live television. I am so glad we have advanced technology. No, not really.

No matter what idiosyncrasies he has, I still love him. In spite of himself.

The stress of breaking up can throw you into a state a anxiety where you end up doing things out of desperation. Unfortunately, the more desperate and needy you act, the more you push your boyfriend away.

Have you noticed that the more you push to get back together, the more distant he becomes? This is actually a totally natural reaction on his part. As a matter of fact, it’s human nature for anyone to resist if they feel too much pressure.

The key to getting your boyfriend back is to give him plenty of space and don’t make any contact for a while. Taking time off will give him a chance to miss you. How can he possibly miss you if you won’t leave him alone?

During this break you should reconnect with friend and family you’ve been neglecting, stay busy doing things that make you happy and basically work on improving your life.

Your ex will see that you’re no longer chasing after him and this will arouse his interest again. There is more to learning how to get your boyfriend back than simply taking a break, but this is a very important first step you must take.

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One of the worst mistakes which a person in a sexless marriage can do is to fall into a sort of depression. It’s understandable that you must be feeling rejected and confused, and even scared of the future. Realize, though, that by surrendering to these negative emotions, you are doing nothing constructive which may lead to finding a solution to your marriage. In fact, by becoming depressed, you are actually drifting further apart from your partner instead of coming closer together.

The best sexless marriage advice I can offer you is to try to look at the situation from a positive perspective. I know that this is difficult to do, but you have to make an effort. By a positive perspective I mean that you have to be convinced that you can fix your marriage and that you will. It may seem very difficult to deal with a sexless marriage, and it is. But many couples have been where you are now and have weathered this storm to come out even stronger in their relationship.

There’s a lot you can do in order to survive a sexless marriage. One of the things you can do is to bring back the excitement which many marriages lose over the years. This excitement doesn’t have to be restricted to the bedroom. Your entire life can become more diverse if you only choose to make it so.

But the first thing you need to do is say to yourself that you will survive your sexless marriage and heal it. Once you come to this firm commitment, you will find the exact steps to make it so.

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When we talk about women we also talk about beauty. They are synonyms. To make a woman feel good always remind her that she is beautiful. Each and every woman loves to hear that. Always make it a point to tell your love that she looks beautiful. If you are not into the habit of making such remarks then learn to make it. It will enhance her beauty, make her feel more beautiful. She will know that you love her. After all, men love beautiful women.

Learn to compliment your wife for her different skills. If she is a good cook then make sure to constantly appreciate the food cooked by her. Praise her for the special dishes she cooks for you and tell her that nobody can make the dish as good and delicious as her. It will make her happy and learn more about cooking. If she is an artist, a dancer, a writer or a very influencing person whatever the quality, just appreciate and compliment her on that. Make it a point to praise her when you both are with friends and relatives. It will only make her feel very close to you. I love you, I care for you, I cannot live without you are not just words spoken to your lover but words that make a difference. Constantly remind you mate that you care for her and how much she means to you. Never feel shy to portray your feelings. If you love your wife say it, she will love you even more. Such reminders are a relationship booster. They strengthen the relationship.

Good lovers are first and foremost best friends. Let the woman in your life know that she your best friend. Share your feelings and problems like a friend to her and find her always by your side like a true friend. Any woman would like to be in friendly terms with the husband. Women like their husbands to be their friends to whom they can open up. The friendship between a man and woman helps them to have a transparent relationship and solve their problems immediately without hiding anything.

Affection showed in front of friends and relatives assures a woman that you honestly love her. She knows that you love her; otherwise you would not have showed it in public. A woman feels very secure when her man does not feel shy to show his affection for her in front of friends as she knows that all the women out there are watching. There is a kind of possessiveness in such action and possessiveness is an indication of love. She is aware that you love her.

Sexy is the word that gets excitement in a relationship. Tell your woman, she is sexy and she will always make it a point to be the sexiest looking. You are going to love that for sure and she will enjoy it. If your find your mate to be sexy then she knows that you are still attracted towards her.

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While there are true introverts, who can decide to avoid social situations because they derive no reward from them or may find surplus sensory input overwhelming, most times, what people refer to as introversion is nothing but shyness. Shyness can cost you a lot of harm, hamper your chances of becoming your true dream self, limits your opportunities whenever they present themselves.

Getting beyond shyness should be your utmost priority if you desire a life of confidence a life that will launch you into what youre supposed to be. These are some of the tips you need to get beyond shyness.

• Youve got to cultivate the habit of smiling always its to your own advantage. It makes you happy and healthier; in fact your life expectancy is prolonged when you have more happy cells. When you smile to people, some will definitely return it, others will say some commendatory soothing words which all add up to build your self worth a feeling that youre wanted, that you belong. So why not get out there and smile. Do not be a jackal either.
• Read and learn about different topics, about events, places, music, environment, weather, films, just about any interesting topic. This is important so you can produce suitable conversational topic. When you do this, you increase your chances to flow, youre no longer shy abut your ability to keep a conversation going.
• Learn to assume a relaxed posture, position wherever you are.
• Its time to take care of your image. Whether you want it or not, people would scrutinize your looks. Youll need to get a personality for yourself. To be frank, you can decide to standby, learn and improve your self-image, or completely be a shadow of someone else. Many people shy away because they are so conscious of their appearance. These steps will help on how to enhance your image and build the must have self confidence.

1. Feel good about yourself. Positive thinking is a good enhancer of personality. Nothing compares to an aura of self contentment and serenity. Shyness is developed by negative thoughts that others are far better than you. Stop that nonsense and start appreciating yourself. Look at the mirror every morning and say to yourself You are a beautiful creation of God!

2. Positive image starts in you. A good character is admirable and gives you credibility. Live harmoniously and be at peace with everyone. How can you project a positive image if your real life doesnt say so? You can really feel shameful if you have criminal records. The real idea of an enhanced image is brought about by living decently.

3. Appearance. Good looking and fashionable people are the ones who get more attention from the audience. Being shy can also be a product of not so being confident on how you look in front of people.

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Healthy Jealousy

When you’re out somewhere with your partner, do you ever notice other people checking them out? Or does the server at the restaurant seem to be flirting with them more than seems normal? If this makes you proud that you have such a desirable partner, you have a healthy level of jealousy. If it makes you want to do bodily harm to that other person, you do not have a healthy level of jealousy. A healthy level of jealousy can let your partner know how much they mean to you. It can also open up an opportunity for them to give you a compliment or other reinforcing comment (this stuff seems to all be tied together…hmmmm, how about that?), or even for you to give them a compliment or positive reinforcement. A little healthy jealousy can let your partner know that they are important to you.

Unhealthy Jealousy

Now, back to the thought of doing bodily harm to the person who was checking out your partner. If this describes you in this situation, you have an unhealthy level of jealousy. There are many possible causes for this. Maybe there has been a betrayal of trust, or maybe you’re just a jealous person.

If there has been a betrayal of trust that causes you to be unusually jealous, you really need to sit down with your partner and talk about this. A relationship cannot endure without trust, so this is something that needs to be resolved, sooner rather than later. The unhealthy jealousy will lead to resentment, anger, smashed windshields, screaming late night phone calls, including to the other woman, and ultimately could lead one or the other of you to do something truly hurtful to the other, like try to run over them in the driveway with your car.

If you are a jealous person, there is one main thing to keep in mind. The person you are with chose to be with you for a reason (or a number of reasons). Remember that they are with you, and not with the person who is checking them out. Everyone likes a little confidence boost, and it doesn’t mean that they think any less of you. Either way, you should definitely talk to your partner about it, and not act childish and petty about it. And, definitely do not try to retaliate by trying to intentionally make them jealous, because that is only going to damage the relationship. With some time, and some good communication between you and your partner you can overcome your jealous tendencies.

Why This Is So Important

Everyone likes a little confidence boost now and then. Trust me, just like compliments from you, a little boost they get from someone else flirting with them will only mean good things for you. A confident person is a better lover, better friend, and better partner. And, if you have the right point of view, someone else’s flattery of your partner means a lot about how lucky you are to actually get to go home with them.

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When we court and date we discuss expectations.What he would like; what she would like.There comes the ground of agreement and we (the couple) move on to the next item for discussion.Expectations in this sense are good.They clear the way for understanding and reinforcement based on agreed principles. They provide boundaries for the relationship.

After the wedding, there are issues of conflict that come up and expectations need to be discussed and delivered on the run.Again, it’s a clearing ground.The issue is discussed, agreed, and then we move on.

Well it doesn’t always work that cleanly does it?It’s not often easy.Not everyone appreciates doing things on the hop, but it’s the best thing on offer.When it doesn’t work i.e. when one or both partners re-neg on the understanding, the marriage predictably goes through further conflict and what were once simple, clear and understood expectations, now have become demands.A subtle shift has taken place.Demands and expectations seem loosely aligned but the key elusive difference is golden truth.

Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have — biblical and worldly truth.Love does not demand anything.It sets up expectations and then simply trusts.When we take our love further into ‘demand-territory’ we risk losing the precious, divine qualities of marriage.

I read a quote just today that might sum it up quite well.”Abundance consists not alone in material possession but in an uncovetous spirit.” -Charles Sheldon.When we choose to drop the demands we place on our partner, we choose freedom for not only them, but ourselves too.The ‘uncovetous spirit’ is essentially the way forward in marriage and in life.We need to hold love lightly; loosely.

When our love becomes demanding it takes on a slightly less mature and less loving flavour — it actually ceases to be love.We need to stick to our expectations but resist becoming demanding to make it work.We can’t make anyone do anything.

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Steve Wickham is a safety and health professional (BSc) and a qualified lay Christian minister (GradDipDiv). His key passion is work / life balance and re-creating value for living, and an exploration of the person within us.