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		<title>The Substance of the Story: What Fiction Writers Can Learn from Screenwriters</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:06:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[As we know, Hollywood is all about storytelling, and storytelling in Hollywood means screenwriters. People in the movie business know very well that if you cant keep the viewers interest focused on the screen, the movie is a flop. Thus, it may be a good idea for any fiction writer to pay attention to the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>As we know, Hollywood is all about storytelling, and storytelling in Hollywood means screenwriters. People in the movie business know very well that if you cant keep the viewers interest focused on the screen, the movie is a flop. Thus, it may be a good idea for any fiction writer to pay attention to the basic principles of screenwriting so his story turns out to be energetic and successful.</p>
<p>Screenwriters work according to established six story telling phases. All phases are important and not one phase should be set aside as unimportant.</p>
<p><b>First, </b> a writer has to create a main character who will drive the story, after the writer has an idea what his story will be about. Before a writer starts putting the first word down, he needs to know at least a few things about his character. Some fiction writers go ahead and describe the visual assets of the character. Although a visual may help a writer to see the character in front of him, a characters psychological traits will be the ones to drive the plot.</p>
<p>All characters have inborn dispositions that are controlled by their genes, life experiences that shape or misshape who they are, what their state of mind is&#8211;or in other words, how they see themselves&#8211; and where their maturity or immaturity levels rest. If the main character is a passive one and stays passive throughout the story, the story runs the risk of being a flop. The active or agitated characters make the plot more interesting and easier to develop.</p>
<p><b>Second, </b> is the conflict. Creating a conflict inside the story begins with setting up a motivation. The question to ask here is what does the character want the most? Motivation is important because it makes the audience identify with the character. This doesnt mean that the character has to be goody two shoes, but what he wants the most&#8211;be it to blow off the planet&#8211;has to be of interest to the reader or the viewer. When the viewers curiosity is aroused, hell stay with the story to see if the character will succeed in his quest.</p>
<p>The screenwriter likes to create a platform so he can push forward the motivation of the character. This means creating a scene or a sequence of scenes that state the point of the story clearly, so the audience or readers can penetrate inside the character. At this stage, the characters touch-up characteristics or his shades may be developed that were left out in the initial planning of the story.</p>
<p><b>In the third phase, </b> the supporting characters are developed. In a story, each character functions in tandem with the main character and key characters have to be given their place in the story. For example, without Hamlets uncle and mother, there wouldnt be a play. The more different the characteristics of the supporting characters from the main character, the more interesting will be the story.</p>
<p>The storys progression occurs when the characters one by one or all together negate, support, or contrast the main character. At this phase, the inference factor comes into play. This means the interchange between the characters, and also, what the reader or the viewer infers from the tone, point of view, and symbolisms. What the reader or viewer infers&#8211;consciously or without knowing&#8211;is significant because it will provide the story with originality.</p>
<p><b>Phase four</b> or the backbone or the process of the story is the toughest part for most writers, because here, the writer will originate the characters and behavior to reflect the ideas behind the story. Backbone develops as the writes continues writing the story. The backbone is the dramatic arguing of the characters in support of or against what the story is about. The backbone of the story binds together the main character, key characters and the conflict, through scenes and sequences. This is where mini climaxes start to surface to illustrate the main characters transformation through a dynamic central idea.</p>
<p>The writer has to establish a theme or, in other words, a basis for the storys premise in order to create the backbone. Backbone arises from the moral or immoral dilemma of the story. In other words, the theme asks the question of what if; the characters and their behavior become the backbone. For example: The question What if <b style="color:#000;background:#ffff66">jealousy</b> turns a good man into a murderer? finds its backbone in the story of Othello.</p>
<p><b>The fifth phase</b> is the further developing of the backbone&#8211;usually called the spine&#8211;toward the main climax. The fifth phase is successful only when the writer begins to understand and sense more profoundly the internal conflict of the main character.</p>
<p><b>At phase six, </b> the depth of the story is disclosed to the readers and viewers. The depth of the story is how we emotionally and intellectually experience the story in our hearts and minds. If the writer has established a good workable foundation for the story up to this point, this last phase should be a successful one. Otherwise, the writer needs to go back to rewrite, alter, and fix the storys construction.</p>
<p>It is said that to tell a story effectively, a writer has to become vigilant of its mysteries from the start as he gains insight into the character and the situations the character finds himself in. Most of the time, infinite layers of meaning are created as sequences or scenes are piled one on top of another, which means the story within the story emerges as it is being written.</p>
<p>It is true that most of the storytelling depends on intuition and right brain thinking; however, knowing how to persevere with the ideas and putting them into an acceptable and comprehensible shape gives a writer his license to write.</p>
<p>Joy Cagil is an author on <a target="_new" href="http://www.Writing.Com/">http://www.Writing.Com/</a> which is a site for <a target="_new" href="http://www.Writing.Com/">Fiction Writing</a>. Joy Cagils education is in linguistics. In her background are womens issues, mental health, and visual arts.</p>
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		<title>Don&#8217;t Let the Legal Requirements Spoil Your Elopement</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 09 Mar 2010 06:18:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In the US there are over 10,000 elopements every year. Many of these elopements do not happen in the resident state of either the bride to be or the groom. Many times these elopements take place after only just a few short days of planning. The problem that many elopers run into is that the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In the US there are over 10,000 elopements every year. Many of these elopements do not happen in the resident state of either the bride to be or the groom. Many times these elopements take place after only just a few short days of planning. The problem that many elopers run into is that the state they wish to marry have marriage requirements such as waiting periods, pre-marital counseling requirements, or residency restrictions that were not anticipated by the eloping couple.</p>
<p>To help with this there are a few great sites on the web that can be used to make sure you know all the marriage laws for a given state and that you have all the legal requirements met before hitting the road to get married. There are 5 key requirements you need to keep in mind when getting all your elopement/destination wedding arrangements in order. They are:
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<li>Do you have to be a legal resident of either the state or the United States to marry in the state of your choosing?</li>
<li>Is there a waiting period that must be met in order to marry in a given state?</li>
<li>Are there medical tests, such as AIDS or other blood work needed?</li>
<li>Have you been previously married, and do you need documentation validating the end of that marriage?</li>
<li>Is there Premarital Counseling required before you marry?</li>
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<p>Not having the answer to these questions will almost assuredly put a damper on your road to an elopement if you are not prepared. Many times just a little research can get you on the right path to a successful elopement.</p>
<p>There are many resources on the web for finding out about <a target="_new" href="http://topics.law.cornell.edu/wex/table_marriage">marriage requirements</a>, and understanding the <a target="_new" href="http://www.marriage-laws.info/">marriage laws</a> for a given state. For further assistance please visit one of the two links above.</p>
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		<title>Office Life &#8211; What Does Your Desk Say About You?</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Mar 2010 22:01:59 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[In today&#8217;s modern workplace, most office employees are encouraged to show a little individuality in their workspace. It gives the impression that the office is made up of individual creative minds and not just mindless worker drones. Decorating your desk also shows that you have personality, which is a character trait that most employers look [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In today&#8217;s modern workplace, most office employees are encouraged to show a little individuality in their workspace. It gives the impression that the office is made up of individual creative minds and not just mindless worker drones. Decorating your desk also shows that you have personality, which is a character trait that most employers look for in an employee. While it can be fun to cover your workspace with photos, trinkets, and other personal accents; it is important to remember that you are still at work. Your desk says more about you than you may think and if you go overboard it can say certain things that you may regret. Here are a few tips to help make sure your desk dcor is working to your advantage.</p>
<p>Organization</p>
<p>Depending on the nature of your job, your day may be hectic and somewhat chaotic. Whether you&#8217;re frantically trying to meet deadlines or casually working at your desk, it is important to do your best to keep your workspace clean and organized. If you keep your desk organized and well stocked with office supplies, you can become a helpful resource for supplies and information to your boss and coworkers. This is a very valuable asset and it can certainly help you out in the long run. By the same token, if you are a neat freak and obsess over the cleanliness of your desk at the behest of your work, it may show that your priorities are not in order. Also, you could gain the reputation for being the office weirdo, which won&#8217;t help get you anywhere.</p>
<p>Sports Paraphernalia</p>
<p>Many people adorn their work area with sports merchandise and memorabilia. It&#8217;s a great way to make friends within the office if you have common interests. Everyone loves showing support for their favorite home team, but taking sides in the office may actually hurt your career. Whether you like it or not, sports fans have one simple rule: Cheer for the home team and boo everyone else. If you&#8217;ve moved to a new city and proudly display your hometown loyalties, it may not help you build the positive relationships in the office that you need to thrive. I&#8217;m not saying you shouldn&#8217;t support your favorite team; just don&#8217;t be obnoxious about it.</p>
<p>Family Photos</p>
<p>Framed pictures of friends and loved ones are very common in most office settings. They are also one of the desk accents that people abuse most frequently. It&#8217;s good to let your coworkers know that you have a life outside of work. Photos, of your children especially, will show management that you have obligations and that you are less likely to quit without notice.</p>
<p>If you display too many photos however, you will give the impression that you would rather be home than working. Which of course is usually the case, but you at least have to pretend. It&#8217;s also not wise to prominently display pictures of your spouse or significant other if they are extremely attractive. Nothing can sabotage your career more than professional <b style="color:#000;background:#ffff66">jealousy</b>.</p>
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		<title>Courtship &#8211; Importance and Benefits</title>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 07 Mar 2010 14:44:08 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Marriage is said to be eternal bliss. When two persons meet each other they are unknown. They are not aware about their likes and dislikes. To lead a happy married life it is essential to know each other. To think that whether both are compatible, whether two uncommon person can lead happy life, whether they [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Marriage is said to be eternal bliss. When two persons meet each other they are unknown. They are not aware about their likes and dislikes. To lead a happy married life it is essential to know each other. To think that whether both are compatible, whether two uncommon person can lead happy life, whether they can live together with each other in odd circumstances also. As life is not always bed of roses, thorns are attached to it. Living together and removing these thorns together is the utmost important.</p>
<p>As to lead life in hardships is more difficult, this is where the need of perfect partner is required. The partner, who can stand along with you in facing realities of life, here the importance of courtship period come to existence. It is the time when two people who wants to get marry can justify each other, so that they could lead their life together. It gives time and importance to know each other, to decide whether they can live or not. It is of no use getting married and then to repent on that. It is hurting or spoiling someone&#8217;s life and emotions. No one has the right to play with some one&#8217;s life. Man can overcome death once, or loosing someone dear to him, but it can shatter the life with broken relation. Broken relation is worst then piercing one&#8217;s body with knife. No one can overcome with that broken relation.</p>
<p>To avoid any such weird circumstances courtship period is important. It is better to say no at initial stage of relation rather than to carry it half hearted. Actually that is the time when one can know each other more closely. They can observe each other activities more minutely. Marriage is a lifetime commitment truly made with open heart. Once the commitment is given then to break it&#8217;s like doomsday. It is the arrival of new life which is full of hope and prosperity. It is this courtship period one can have mutual understanding. They can learn and should try to trust each other. They should try to consider each other life and its importance as their own.</p>
<p>They should accept each other what they are and not what they want to be. Marriage is a relation of present learning from the past in building a better future. This is what courtship period teaches us, it is beneficial for leading harmonious and happy life. If these qualities are not found between two persons then it is better not to marry rather than fulfilling for other material gains. Courtship period teaches us to find partner who can be friend first and then life partner, who will not leave us at any odd circumstances of life. But will hold each other&#8217;s hand to fight the war&#8217;s of life.</p>
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		<title>Has anyone overcome major jealousy/trust issues in their relationship? How so?</title>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 06 Mar 2010 16:52:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The BF and I are having these issues, but we love each other. How do we make it work?
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		<title>You Wanna Make New Friends?</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Mar 2010 07:45:43 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Use shyness to your advantage
Force yourself to go up and say hello to strangers at parties, meetings and gatherings. If you&#8217;re very shy, think of yourself as a &#8217;successfully shy&#8217; person, because you can still make new friends. Making the first move takes the pressure off other people, and most of the time they will [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Use shyness to your advantage</p>
<p>Force yourself to go up and say hello to strangers at parties, meetings and gatherings. If you&#8217;re very shy, think of yourself as a &#8217;successfully shy&#8217; person, because you can still make new friends. Making the first move takes the pressure off other people, and most of the time they will be relieved that someone else has set the ball rolling.</p>
<p>The remote control is not your friend</p>
<p>Chances are, you won&#8217;t meet too many new people sitting home alone watching TV and moping. You really have to get out more, but fortunately you don&#8217;t have to be out until late every night. Why not test the water by joining a group of some kind that meets once a week?</p>
<p>What makes you tick?</p>
<p>Friendships are often formed between people who have a common interest. Just be yourself, and find some like-minded others. If you&#8217;re sports mad, join a local team for training or competitions. If you want to help others, why not try volunteering? Look on the internet for organizations (Better not Dating Agencies) that cater for singles meeting at events rather than under the pressure of &#8220;Blind Dating&#8221; You will probably enjoy the event anyway, even if you don&#8217;t meet anyone you want to team up with</p>
<p>There are evening and weekend classes on just about any subject you can imagine, and even if you don&#8217;t hit it off with anybody there, you&#8217;ll still be picking up new skills, and will have something interesting to talk about. University students are generally spoiled for choice, and can join all sorts of clubs and societies at college.</p>
<p>Be interesting, not boring</p>
<p>Even if you&#8217;re in a new town where you don&#8217;t know a soul, keep up with your interests wherever you can. When you do finally meet some new people, you&#8217;ll have something other than soap operas to talk about. It&#8217;ll make conversations more interesting if you can talk about something current, such as the latest film or gig you went to.</p>
<p>Pack your social skills</p>
<p>Remember to smile, and try to look relaxed (even if you&#8217;re nervous as hell) when meeting new folks. Introduce yourself early on in the conversation, and take an interest in the other person&#8217;s answers. Eye contact can be very important here. Ask open-ended questions that allow the chat to flow easily, rather than closed questions that are just going to be answered with a simple &#8216;yes&#8217; or &#8216;no&#8217;.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s all in the follow-up</p>
<p>If you get on well with anyone, offer to swap email addresses or phone numbers, and keep in touch with them. As always, consider your personal safety with anyone you don&#8217;t know very well, and don&#8217;t rush into giving them your home address or similar details straight away. Don&#8217;t just ditch your old friends either, drop them a line every now and again if you&#8217;ve moved away. <br />Sometimes it just takes a little time.</p>
<p>You won&#8217;t find a new best friend in one afternoon. It can take a while to get to know people, so just relax and take it easy.</p>
<p>The Author of this article recommends <a target="_new" href="http://www.meetextremeadventures.co.za">http://www.meetextremeadventures.co.za</a> and turbo charge your friendship circle</p>
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		<title>Yuna&#8217;s Glad Shuyin&#8217;s Gone Forever&#8230;</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 05 Mar 2010 04:54:54 +0000</pubDate>
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Yuna&#8217;s glad to see him gone so she can start up a new relationship with Tidus and finally focus more on her friends because Shuyin had jealousy issues.. Song: Gone Forever Artist: Three Days Grace By: glamgirl16 of Dark Mast Productions.. Please leave comments and or ratings. DISCLAIMER: PURELY FAN MADE I DONT OWN ANY [...]]]></description>
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Yuna&#8217;s glad to see him gone so she can start up a new relationship with Tidus and finally focus more on her friends because Shuyin had jealousy issues.. Song: Gone Forever Artist: Three Days Grace By: glamgirl16 of Dark Mast Productions.. Please leave comments and or ratings. DISCLAIMER: PURELY FAN MADE I DONT OWN ANY OF IT. IT ALL BELONGS TO RESPECTIVE COMPANIES/ARTISTS.</p>
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		<title>roscoe gets owned by youtube dog barks</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 17:04:15 +0000</pubDate>
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my dog roscoe, dealing with jealousy issues (he&#8217;s still sniffin the tower, lookin for the dog)
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		<title>Growing and Keeping Loyal Fan Support</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 03 Mar 2010 03:18:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Fan support for musicians is a two way street. You make the music, release the CDs, and play the shows. You need fans to show up at the gigs, buy the CDs, or spread the buzz about you or you don&#8217;t have an audience. When these two elements are out of balance, your musical endeavors [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Fan support for musicians is a two way street. You make the music, release the CDs, and play the shows. You need fans to show up at the gigs, buy the CDs, or spread the buzz about you or you don&#8217;t have an audience. When these two elements are out of balance, your musical endeavors can get sidelined.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s why it&#8217;s so important to always embrace the positive, well-meaning encouragement you receive from your fans. If I could sum up what fans want most of all from an artist, it&#8217;s not only to be reached through your work, but to also be able to reach back in return. It&#8217;s a great privilege for fans to give back something positive that the artists bring to us.</p>
<p>Here are three ways to keep that fan loyalty working for you:</p>
<p>1. Accept your performance compliments graciously. Maybe you had an off night. Maybe you didn&#8217;t feel you were in the pocket as often as you expected to be. If people come up to you and tell you they thought you were great, that is exactly what it means to them. They are there to be an encouragement for you. Even though you didn&#8217;t think you reached anyone, they felt you got through to them. So, don&#8217;t beat yourself up or diffuse it by saying how lousy you thought you were. Remember, the hearts&#8217; desire of the fan is to reach you, too. Say thank you and show your appreciation.</p>
<p>Modesty is always an admirable trait&#8211;but don&#8217;t take it to the extreme. The fans who have spent the better part of a year or so communicating to you why they think you&#8217;re the best singer are going to feel badly if you say in an interview that you don&#8217;t have much confidence in your vocal abilities or your performance. That tells the fans they have not been successful in getting the message through to you. That can be very disappointing to fans and make them wonder, well, what&#8217;s the point of saying anything at all. And there you go, letting encouragement slip through your fingers.</p>
<p>2. Acknowledge your fan base. You can show some love to the fans by doing something to demonstrate that you are connecting with them. Think about a regular communication vehicle above and beyond, such as an email or online newsletter where you make direct communication with fans. If you have a message board on your website, try dropping in now and then just to say hi and let folks know you&#8217;re hearing them.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s one &#8220;be aware&#8221; in this area, though. If you are one of those with a broad or growing popularity base, you have the challenge of keeping a lot of people who want to be noticed by you happy. It&#8217;s nice to recognize deserving fans on your websites and other communications. But if you mention the same people too often, it might create the impression of favoritism, which could possibly cause <b style="color:#000;background:#ffff66">jealousy</b> and hurt feelings among fans. If you do something for one, others might want it as well. So be sure it&#8217;s as much as you can handle. You would be surprised how many fans do know each other and compare notes!</p>
<p>Besides those fans that are particularly visible or diligently make themselves known, there can be others giving solid support for you behind the scenes. You probably are unaware of them because they may be a little more on the shy side, haven&#8217;t had the contact opportunities others have or just can&#8217;t seem to stick out enough for you to take notice. But that&#8217;s not to say they don&#8217;t want to hear they are appreciated. So do give credit to those who are due&#8211;doing that privately is nice, too. But, be sure you give ALL of your fans those &#8220;virtual group hugs&#8221; from time to time!</p>
<p>3. Keep communications current. If you have a website, keep it regularly updated. If you don&#8217;t show enough commitment to keep your information up to speed on gigs, recordings, features and all, people will stop coming by after a while. After all, how can fans encourage you when they don&#8217;t know where, when and how?</p>
<p>With all of the options that exist for communication between artists and fans, when it&#8217;s done in a positive, uplifting manner it&#8217;s a win-win situation for your career and for the people who are out there waiting to enjoy your gifts!</p>
<p>Wendy Vickers is a writer, encourager, life coach, speaker and author of two audiobooks: &#8220;Treasures In the Tip Jar: the Art of Awesome Fan Support&#8221; (from which this article is taken) and &#8220;Out of the Jar&#8230;And Into the World.&#8221; Wendy offers resources, encouragement and support for musicians at her websites <a target="_new" href="http://wendyv.com">http://wendyv.com</a> and <a target="_new" href="http://embraceencouragement.com">http://embraceencouragement.com</a></p>
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		<title>Are You Living IN Your Integrity?</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Mar 2010 12:11:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[What is meant by integrity anyway? For me, it&#8217;s all about carefully listening to my feelings and trusting that when something doesn&#8217;t feel good, that means I&#8217;m bucking my own current. When I buck my own current, I&#8217;m not being authentic &#8230; I&#8217;m not being who I am and who my Higher Power wants me [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>What is meant by integrity anyway? For me, it&#8217;s all about carefully listening to my feelings and trusting that when something doesn&#8217;t feel good, that means I&#8217;m bucking my own current. When I buck my own current, I&#8217;m not being authentic &#8230; I&#8217;m not being who I am and who my Higher Power wants me to be. When I do that, inevitably I&#8217;m heading straight for something that I&#8217;m not going to like when I get there. It&#8217;s a funny thing too, because at the point of arriving, I often find myself saying, &#8220;where did this come from??? It came out of nowhere!&#8221; Something that I&#8217;m very clear about now is that this is impossible &#8230; nothing comes out of nowhere &#8230; nothing! The Law of Attraction is not only the strongest law in the Universe, but it never ever falters, wavers or is inconsistent &#8230; not ever.</p>
<p>The truth is that any thought that I think long enough is the truth for me; it becomes a dominant vibration &#8230; a belief &#8230; and the Law of Attraction will be delivering like unto like to support my thoughts &#8230; it has to. Yes we are that powerful. We are like extremely strong radio towers that are constantly sending out signals that go out and pull in &#8220;like&#8221; vibrations. If I am emanating joy, hope, optimism as my dominant thoughts &#8230; Law has to bring me that which matches that. It is also true that if my dominant thoughts are fear-based, poverty or lack-based or envy/<b style="color:#000;background:#ffff66">jealousy</b> orientated, I will soon be waist-deep in grief &#8230; probably wondering what I did to deserve this. So what integrity means to me is to be true to myself, gentle, kind and loving as my dominant intention/pattern of thinking. When I can do that, I find that I have all of that to give to others as well. It comes with ease and is quite natural. I have to start with me first though. Being in my integrity is a selfish act, but it demonstrates in my world as a generous and humble way to live.</p>
<p>I have found over the years, as I pay attention and do my best to honor myself, be authentic and be a good human being, life goes along really quite sweetly. That doesn&#8217;t mean I don&#8217;t have times of difficulty &#8230; I do, but they are short-lived and I don&#8217;t &#8220;live&#8221; there.</p>
<p>If fitness and <a target="_new" href="http://kimsfitnessandnutrition.com">nutrition</a> are top concerns of yours, or if they should be, don&#8217;t miss a single article from Kim May. Ms. May has over 15 years of experience in the fitness world as a personal trainer, motivator, and certified nutritionist. She&#8217;s been published in leading <a target="_new" href="http://kimsfitnessandnutrition.com">health</a> magazines and regularly posts articles about <a target="_new" href="http://kimsfitnessandnutrition.com">fitness</a> from Waynesville, North Carolina where she lives with her partner and two wonderful dogs.</p>
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