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6 Responses to “I have jealousy issues and need advice?”
ok let me say somethin from experience. Well first, how long have you two been together? Is it to the point where you can ask her, “Hey baby, so we do not have problems, can you please stop talking to so many guy friends?” In relationships if there is love sacrifices will be made.
Another thing is I use to be one of those girls that only had guy friends, just because getting along with girls was not the easiest thing for me. But, you know how they say all guys are the same (about guys being players and all that?) well all girls are the same too. If one of her guy friends is flirting with her alot, she might go with the flow and OFCOURSE she is not going to tell you because she would not want you saying “dont talk to him nomore”. Trust me I have done that and know girls that do that. Yea your girl might not sleep with them because she is with you but the whole flirting might be there. You need to talk to her.
If you are not talking to girls then she should be able to give up talking to guys.
go see a counselor, making her feel like she is doing something wrong all of the time will only push her away and she will not stay with you long anyhow. If you really like her, you will get to know them and realize how harmless they are. She is with you not them, duh. That says something in itself. Shape up your tude or she will leave you. My boyfirend does that to me, difference is I can take the stupid comments and tude he dishes, some people are not strong enough to understand jealousy issues, or deal with them. It will eventually get out of hand for you and she will get pissed. Make it a good thing and try to involve yourself in her life in all aspects, doesnt matter who her friends are, you probably have friends that are girls, I will bet that she is understanding of that and it is you with the issue.
I think a lot of this also depends on your age. Younger folks do tend to get jealous faster. I have a lot of guy friends, guys are easier to talk to because girls always are to competitive for me. But, I have never given hubby a reason to be jealous. I was and still do get along better with guys. For you it’s a matter of trust. If she had guy friends before the girlfriend/boyfriend stigma, then don’t change her. You can only trust her and hope she continues to earn that trust, just as you have to earn yours to her. Good Luck
Dating Advice
you knew she had guy friends when you went out with her. why don’t you go with them?
would u want a girl nobody else wanted? U both have to be committed to each other and then the rest will follow.
ok let me say somethin from experience. Well first, how long have you two been together? Is it to the point where you can ask her, “Hey baby, so we do not have problems, can you please stop talking to so many guy friends?” In relationships if there is love sacrifices will be made.
Another thing is I use to be one of those girls that only had guy friends, just because getting along with girls was not the easiest thing for me. But, you know how they say all guys are the same (about guys being players and all that?) well all girls are the same too. If one of her guy friends is flirting with her alot, she might go with the flow and OFCOURSE she is not going to tell you because she would not want you saying “dont talk to him nomore”. Trust me I have done that and know girls that do that. Yea your girl might not sleep with them because she is with you but the whole flirting might be there. You need to talk to her.
If you are not talking to girls then she should be able to give up talking to guys.
If you can’t trust her than what is your relationship worth>?
go see a counselor, making her feel like she is doing something wrong all of the time will only push her away and she will not stay with you long anyhow. If you really like her, you will get to know them and realize how harmless they are. She is with you not them, duh. That says something in itself. Shape up your tude or she will leave you. My boyfirend does that to me, difference is I can take the stupid comments and tude he dishes, some people are not strong enough to understand jealousy issues, or deal with them. It will eventually get out of hand for you and she will get pissed. Make it a good thing and try to involve yourself in her life in all aspects, doesnt matter who her friends are, you probably have friends that are girls, I will bet that she is understanding of that and it is you with the issue.
I think a lot of this also depends on your age. Younger folks do tend to get jealous faster. I have a lot of guy friends, guys are easier to talk to because girls always are to competitive for me. But, I have never given hubby a reason to be jealous. I was and still do get along better with guys. For you it’s a matter of trust. If she had guy friends before the girlfriend/boyfriend stigma, then don’t change her. You can only trust her and hope she continues to earn that trust, just as you have to earn yours to her. Good Luck