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13 Responses to “I have jealousy issues with my 5 year old and my newborn?”

1. LeAnne on February 18th, 2010 at 6:45 am

   Create a “first born day” with your 5 year old. Make it one day a week that is all for her. Have someone watch the baby for you. If you can’t do it weekly, then maybe a “first born hour” during the day that you could do on a daily basis.

2. agedlioness on February 18th, 2010 at 7:16 am

   probably not completely. my eldest is 43 now and still
   doesn’t understand why i needed his sister and brother
   when we already had him.

3. motherof3 on February 18th, 2010 at 7:55 am

   i would probably start acting silly with the 5yr old around the baby. do little things like pla y with the babys toes and say things like look at the little tose woses or little things like that thats what i do with my 5 yr old and it helps because now he loves the babies toes.

4. sassy_girl200501 on February 18th, 2010 at 8:18 am

   you need to set aside a special time for just your 5 yr old. she doesnt understand how much work a baby is. instead of your husband spending time with her so you can take care of the baby, let your husband take care of the baby and you and your 5 yr old do something special together, regardless of what it is she will see that she is just as special to you as that baby. you are her mother, you need to make and find the time for her…and as the baby gets older your 5 yr old will not be so jealous..try taking her to the gym with you and that could be your special time together, and maybe lunch with just you and her..

5. Zoe on February 18th, 2010 at 9:12 am

   Ask her to help you with the baby,that you really need her input.Make a special day just for you and her alone,you could take the baby to a sitter and spend some quality time with her.As far as the jealousy,you will have to deal with that always,just make sure you treat them fairly and dont play favorites.Good Luck

   ps laugh,you gotta laugh or you will pull your hair out.

6. meyouyea on February 18th, 2010 at 9:49 am

   sounds like the older kid is jealous of baby….give a special time just with the older one ….even if its a few minutes and reward good befavior…being jealous is a human trait we all have

7. thingsthatmakeyougo...hmmm on February 18th, 2010 at 9:55 am

   sending someone else like your husband isn’t going to do the job…not when all shes wanting is mom…at 5 she is pretty smart and knows the difference…maybe you can make a “spacial” time for you and her once a week…talk alot with her say you know that mommy is busy but we will do this at this time once a week just for me and you….or involve her in your daily activities with the baby…i know its tuff i have a 9 yr old and a 16 mth old and yes one on the way….its very trying as a mom….but then again there happiness is all that matters right now right??? good luck hope it pans out for ya!!

8. litaria02 on February 18th, 2010 at 10:02 am

   try switching
   you take care of the baby while your husband takes care of her
   then the next day make your husband take care of the baby and you take care of her keep on switching like this and on saturdays and sundays both of you try playing with the newborn and the toddler

9. 2Hott2Touch on February 18th, 2010 at 10:16 am

   I have a 5 year old son and I was kinda afraid how he would react to a new edition of the family. He seems happy and can’t wait, but on the other hand will he be able to accept that it’s not all about him anymore and mommy can’t give him all that attention he used to get.

10. marnonyahoo on February 18th, 2010 at 10:42 am

    It is very common for children to be jealous and mean to the newborn. She was the center of your world for 5 years and now she has to share mommy. Make sure you take time everyday to show you’re love. When the baby is sleeping, read her a story, do an art project (make a Froot Loop necklace), and things that show she is the “big girl” (she can help mommy make dinner, help with the baby…getting a diaper, let her pick out baby’s outfit, help with the bath…) Tell her that she is so lucky because she is a big sister (maybe even get her a big sister shirt). She can do so much more than a baby because she is older. Tell her things like “You did that by yourself! Look how high you climbed! You used so many colors on your picture!” These are great confidence builders! If she keeps getting messages like these, she should start to feel more confident in her new world and happy with a younger sibling. Be patient!

11. +*+*Elly*+*+ on February 18th, 2010 at 11:13 am

    Spend time with both of them together, you can do that. Play games with your five year old when your baby is with you, Do family activites, and trade spots with your husbabd, let him watch the baby while you bond with your 5 year old. Include and Bond are the keys to a succsessful family.

12. liss843 on February 18th, 2010 at 11:54 am

    try and include her in with helping with the baby, that might make her feel more included

13. april on May 13th, 2010 at 9:17 am

    I need help I’m 21 weeks pregnant and I have a 5 year old she tells me she hates the baby all the time and asked me to leave the baby at the hospital when it comes out can I get some advice please

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