Comments on: I have jealousy issues with my 5 year old and my newborn? http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/ Emotional jealousy help and advice Fri, 03 Feb 2012 02:50:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: april http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-2040 april Thu, 13 May 2010 08:17:09 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-2040 I need help I'm 21 weeks pregnant and I have a 5 year old she tells me she hates the baby all the time and asked me to leave the baby at the hospital when it comes out can I get some advice please I need help I’m 21 weeks pregnant and I have a 5 year old she tells me she hates the baby all the time and asked me to leave the baby at the hospital when it comes out can I get some advice please

]]> By: liss843 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1817 liss843 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 11:54:37 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1817 try and include her in with helping with the baby, that might make her feel more included try and include her in with helping with the baby, that might make her feel more included

]]> By: +*+*Elly*+*+ http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1816 +*+*Elly*+*+ Thu, 18 Feb 2010 11:13:10 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1816 Spend time with both of them together, you can do that. Play games with your five year old when your baby is with you, Do family activites, and trade spots with your husbabd, let him watch the baby while you bond with your 5 year old. Include and Bond are the keys to a succsessful family. Spend time with both of them together, you can do that. Play games with your five year old when your baby is with you, Do family activites, and trade spots with your husbabd, let him watch the baby while you bond with your 5 year old. Include and Bond are the keys to a succsessful family.

]]> By: marnonyahoo http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1815 marnonyahoo Thu, 18 Feb 2010 10:42:27 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1815 It is very common for children to be jealous and mean to the newborn. She was the center of your world for 5 years and now she has to share mommy. Make sure you take time everyday to show you're love. When the baby is sleeping, read her a story, do an art project (make a Froot Loop necklace), and things that show she is the "big girl" (she can help mommy make dinner, help with the baby...getting a diaper, let her pick out baby's outfit, help with the bath...) Tell her that she is so lucky because she is a big sister (maybe even get her a big sister shirt). She can do so much more than a baby because she is older. Tell her things like "You did that by yourself! Look how high you climbed! You used so many colors on your picture!" These are great confidence builders! If she keeps getting messages like these, she should start to feel more confident in her new world and happy with a younger sibling. Be patient! It is very common for children to be jealous and mean to the newborn. She was the center of your world for 5 years and now she has to share mommy. Make sure you take time everyday to show you’re love. When the baby is sleeping, read her a story, do an art project (make a Froot Loop necklace), and things that show she is the “big girl” (she can help mommy make dinner, help with the baby…getting a diaper, let her pick out baby’s outfit, help with the bath…) Tell her that she is so lucky because she is a big sister (maybe even get her a big sister shirt). She can do so much more than a baby because she is older. Tell her things like “You did that by yourself! Look how high you climbed! You used so many colors on your picture!” These are great confidence builders! If she keeps getting messages like these, she should start to feel more confident in her new world and happy with a younger sibling. Be patient!

]]> By: 2Hott2Touch http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1814 2Hott2Touch Thu, 18 Feb 2010 10:16:31 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1814 I have a 5 year old son and I was kinda afraid how he would react to a new edition of the family. He seems happy and can't wait, but on the other hand will he be able to accept that it's not all about him anymore and mommy can't give him all that attention he used to get. I have a 5 year old son and I was kinda afraid how he would react to a new edition of the family. He seems happy and can’t wait, but on the other hand will he be able to accept that it’s not all about him anymore and mommy can’t give him all that attention he used to get.

]]> By: litaria02 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1813 litaria02 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 10:02:51 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1813 try switching you take care of the baby while your husband takes care of her then the next day make your husband take care of the baby and you take care of her keep on switching like this and on saturdays and sundays both of you try playing with the newborn and the toddler try switching
you take care of the baby while your husband takes care of her
then the next day make your husband take care of the baby and you take care of her keep on switching like this and on saturdays and sundays both of you try playing with the newborn and the toddler

]]> By: thingsthatmakeyougo...hmmm http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1812 thingsthatmakeyougo...hmmm Thu, 18 Feb 2010 09:55:37 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1812 sending someone else like your husband isn't going to do the job...not when all shes wanting is mom...at 5 she is pretty smart and knows the difference...maybe you can make a "spacial" time for you and her once a week...talk alot with her say you know that mommy is busy but we will do this at this time once a week just for me and you....or involve her in your daily activities with the baby...i know its tuff i have a 9 yr old and a 16 mth old and yes one on the way....its very trying as a mom....but then again there happiness is all that matters right now right??? good luck hope it pans out for ya!! sending someone else like your husband isn’t going to do the job…not when all shes wanting is mom…at 5 she is pretty smart and knows the difference…maybe you can make a “spacial” time for you and her once a week…talk alot with her say you know that mommy is busy but we will do this at this time once a week just for me and you….or involve her in your daily activities with the baby…i know its tuff i have a 9 yr old and a 16 mth old and yes one on the way….its very trying as a mom….but then again there happiness is all that matters right now right??? good luck hope it pans out for ya!!

]]> By: meyouyea http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1811 meyouyea Thu, 18 Feb 2010 09:49:42 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1811 sounds like the older kid is jealous of baby....give a special time just with the older one ....even if its a few minutes and reward good befavior...being jealous is a human trait we all have sounds like the older kid is jealous of baby….give a special time just with the older one ….even if its a few minutes and reward good befavior…being jealous is a human trait we all have

]]> By: Zoe http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1810 Zoe Thu, 18 Feb 2010 09:12:54 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1810 Ask her to help you with the baby,that you really need her input.Make a special day just for you and her alone,you could take the baby to a sitter and spend some quality time with her.As far as the jealousy,you will have to deal with that always,just make sure you treat them fairly and dont play favorites.Good Luck ps laugh,you gotta laugh or you will pull your hair out. Ask her to help you with the baby,that you really need her input.Make a special day just for you and her alone,you could take the baby to a sitter and spend some quality time with her.As far as the jealousy,you will have to deal with that always,just make sure you treat them fairly and dont play favorites.Good Luck

ps laugh,you gotta laugh or you will pull your hair out.

]]> By: sassy_girl200501 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/comment-page-1/#comment-1809 sassy_girl200501 Thu, 18 Feb 2010 08:18:19 +0000 http://jealousmate.com/i-have-jealousy-issues-with-my-5-year-old-and-my-newborn/#comment-1809 you need to set aside a special time for just your 5 yr old. she doesnt understand how much work a baby is. instead of your husband spending time with her so you can take care of the baby, let your husband take care of the baby and you and your 5 yr old do something special together, regardless of what it is she will see that she is just as special to you as that baby. you are her mother, you need to make and find the time for her...and as the baby gets older your 5 yr old will not be so jealous..try taking her to the gym with you and that could be your special time together, and maybe lunch with just you and her.. you need to set aside a special time for just your 5 yr old. she doesnt understand how much work a baby is. instead of your husband spending time with her so you can take care of the baby, let your husband take care of the baby and you and your 5 yr old do something special together, regardless of what it is she will see that she is just as special to you as that baby. you are her mother, you need to make and find the time for her…and as the baby gets older your 5 yr old will not be so jealous..try taking her to the gym with you and that could be your special time together, and maybe lunch with just you and her..

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