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8 Responses to “I think I have come to the conclusion – I have major jealousy issues. Any advice?”
I’m the same way! And I guess I have come to notice that I am really envying that person if anything like there is something about them that you wish you were. I guess for instance when my boyfriend is simply hanging out with one girl and 5 other guy friends I get jealous of that one girl!! And I think it is because he moved out of the state a while ago and I wish I was her and I wish I was able to just hang out with my boyfriend like she is, I will just automatically get jealous. I think jealousy is totally normal.
Jealousy comes from insecurity and the feeling that others are better than you. Insecurity comes from our ideals of what we feel we should be as opposed to what we feel we are. What we feel we should be is determined at a very young age. It is determined by who you looked up to when you were young. You may have thought someone was pretty on tv or had a sister or friend that you admired…..you grow up comparing yourself to that standard you set in your head. When you feel you do not measure up to what that standard you have set for yourself appears to be, you become insecure. The key to changing this is to figure out who you look up to and what qualities they have that have you admiring them. Then look at those people REALISTICALLY. Compare ALL of their qualities to you and notice the qualities that YOU have that they may not have. In addition, surround yourself with people that build your confidence rather than cut you down. Good luck.
Pray for the person you are jealous of….for their success, happiness and prosperity. Ask God for the willingness to do this – try to be happy for others when things are going thier way. I count the blessing God has given me and remember that we all are different with different experiences
Even if you are not Catholic, you may want to go to a Priest about jealousy issues – I find them very wise and helpful – and open to help anyone
I have the same problem and this is what I try to do.
Don’t be offended but you could possibly have some jealousy issues. Do you know what makes you jealous? If you do, then there are different ways to handle it. I can’t really help you unless I know what is really making you jealous. If you let me know, I could give you some tips but that’s all I can do for you with the information you gave.
You are emotionally insecure. Over the years, a feeling of slight inferiority creeped in, forcing you to react with envy to even the smallest detail. This isn’t anything serious but you could discuss with your therapist if you feel that would calm you down.
Most people are filled with envy, don’t you think? Its how we deal with this situation that sets us apart. The very fact that you posted this question shows you care about this matter. You will do good.
You can message me if you need more help. Take care.
I’m the same way, always been, always will be. but its no good doe
having jealousy reactions, you tend not to listen to anything at the particular moment. till you finally calm down and see things from a different angle. its a good thing you are bringing this information to your therapist to get an advice on.
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I believe you mean envious (tip) and if you discuss it with your therapist make sure to be specific don’t just say you get envious about everything.
I’m the same way! And I guess I have come to notice that I am really envying that person if anything like there is something about them that you wish you were. I guess for instance when my boyfriend is simply hanging out with one girl and 5 other guy friends I get jealous of that one girl!! And I think it is because he moved out of the state a while ago and I wish I was her and I wish I was able to just hang out with my boyfriend like she is, I will just automatically get jealous. I think jealousy is totally normal.
make sure to have some examples ready for your thearpist , see if what makes you jelouse is linked or has a pattern
Jealousy comes from insecurity and the feeling that others are better than you. Insecurity comes from our ideals of what we feel we should be as opposed to what we feel we are. What we feel we should be is determined at a very young age. It is determined by who you looked up to when you were young. You may have thought someone was pretty on tv or had a sister or friend that you admired…..you grow up comparing yourself to that standard you set in your head. When you feel you do not measure up to what that standard you have set for yourself appears to be, you become insecure. The key to changing this is to figure out who you look up to and what qualities they have that have you admiring them. Then look at those people REALISTICALLY. Compare ALL of their qualities to you and notice the qualities that YOU have that they may not have. In addition, surround yourself with people that build your confidence rather than cut you down. Good luck.
Pray for the person you are jealous of….for their success, happiness and prosperity. Ask God for the willingness to do this – try to be happy for others when things are going thier way. I count the blessing God has given me and remember that we all are different with different experiences
Even if you are not Catholic, you may want to go to a Priest about jealousy issues – I find them very wise and helpful – and open to help anyone
I have the same problem and this is what I try to do.
Don’t be offended but you could possibly have some jealousy issues. Do you know what makes you jealous? If you do, then there are different ways to handle it. I can’t really help you unless I know what is really making you jealous. If you let me know, I could give you some tips but that’s all I can do for you with the information you gave.
You are emotionally insecure. Over the years, a feeling of slight inferiority creeped in, forcing you to react with envy to even the smallest detail. This isn’t anything serious but you could discuss with your therapist if you feel that would calm you down.
Most people are filled with envy, don’t you think? Its how we deal with this situation that sets us apart. The very fact that you posted this question shows you care about this matter. You will do good.
You can message me if you need more help. Take care.
I’m the same way, always been, always will be. but its no good doe
having jealousy reactions, you tend not to listen to anything at the particular moment. till you finally calm down and see things from a different angle. its a good thing you are bringing this information to your therapist to get an advice on.