rainbowglowgirl asked:

I am an extremely jealous person, and because I have low confidence. I accuse my fianc2e I often accuse him of cheating on me and spend all my time looking foir evidence thgat he is cheating on me. How can control these jealousy and insecurity it moves away before it destroys my relationship?

Richard Mackenzie asked:


Jealousy is one of the most human of all emotions, and each one of us has experienced it at one time or the other. Jealousy towards your spouse/partner, jealousy towards a sibling, jealousy towards a co-worker, these are but a few examples of this human emotion. While in some cases this jealousy is at a controllable stage, there are yet others when this emotion just takes over the lives of people, and it is then that the warning bells start ringing. Some amount of jealousy is natural to all people, but when it becomes an obsessive trait there is cause to worry, for driven by this Green Devil, we end up hurting the people we love and causing mental torture to both them and us. Once you have identified this emotion as one that has to be dealt with, hypnotherapy for jealousy is one of the most effective routes you could take to control it.
Jealousy, is a result of an over active imagination and an underlying insecurity. As someone rightly said, “an idle mind is a devil’s workshop”. This misguided imagination makes us do some terrible things. You can’t stop thinking about your partner, each and every innocent thing that he says and does, seem to take on epic proportions of infidelity to you. You find yourself imagining scenarios about your partner, and in the process torment yourself. You know that it’s not good for your relationship, but you simply can’t stop. Jealousy can be tragic and devastating to a relationship, it can create bitterness beyond imagination. In some cases it can lead to domination, controlling behavior and even physical violence; and I do not need to wax eloquent on how effective these things are in killing love and relationships. If you realize that it’s time to keep a check on your jealousy, you have already taken the first step towards bettering situations. Hypnotherapy for jealousy will take you a long way from there.
As I said, jealousy is often caused by our insecurities; hypnotherapy for jealousy takes stock of the past and present events in your life and identifies the core issue, which might be the catalyst to such behavior. Once the trigger is identified, hypnotherapy for jealousy helps you get over the negative emotions, through the power of positive thinking and auto-suggestions. Insecurity is effectively dealt with by changing your self-image and perception. Your self esteem is boosted by auto suggestions, and this reflects in your outward behavior. Your fertile imagination is weeded out thoroughly for unwanted scenes and undesirable stimuli, to give it a more healthy and positive outlook.
Hypnotherapy for jealousy works faster than you can imagine. Your partner will be astounded to see the new you, and it is needless to say that it will bring about a dramatic positive change in your relationship. Gone are the ugly scenes and the nagging suspicion, both you and your partner will benefit from these changes. If you stop imagining things, and learn to trust your partner, you will stop torturing yourself mentally. On the other hand, with this renewed trust your partner will feel less threatened and controlled, and will subconsciously react in a positive way towards you. Remember that though you feel your overwhelming love for your partner justifies your desire to control his/her actions, you know deep down it is not the done thing. Add to that the fact that chewing your nails while imagining worst possible scenes involving your mate, and an imaginary “Other” will bring you no good. So its time you got yourself a manicure for your hands, and hypnotherapy for your soul.

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Lovinlife asked:


I’ve been with my boyfriend for 1.5 years. I’m very possessive of him. I get SO jealous of other girls, even though he NEVER talks to them. I think it’s getting worse. I overanalyze his past relationships. Even if he hangs out with his guy friends I get jealous. I know this is very unhealthy. Many of my friendships faded away. Many are busy with their own lives now and he’s like the only close person I have in my life. Plus I would rather hang out with him than them. It’s like I want all of his attention. I know it’s wrong, in general I’m a really nice person, but to him I can be so selfish. He always hangs out with me instead of his guy friends, and he’s very sweet. Once we started dating, all of my friendships started fading away. I want to change, but I don’t even know where to begin. I want to be an “awesome” girlfriend. We’re both juniors in college, and all I truly want for the both of us is to be happy. Because of jealousy, our relationship isn’t as strong as it used to be.

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Abhishek asked:


I have some inherent very bad qualities like jealousy, insecurity and lack of self-confidence which is preventing me to be a better person or enter into a relationship. I have tried a lot of things but the results have been next to nil. Can you please suggest some way out of this dillemma? Thanks in advance.

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tril asked:


Is there a biological reason?
Has it always been there from birth?
From family /environment?
From experiences/ hurt/ betray?

HOW CAN SOMEONE TAKE STEPS TO OVERCOME THIS?
thanks for your insight

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ericgeyer asked:


I am in a relationship with my girlfriend and I have a close platonic friend who is a girl who I’ve known for about 10 years now and my girlfriend thinks I have feelings for her when I don’t. Her and I are close because we’ve known each other for so long. My gf has a lot of close guy friends that I have absolutely no problem with. I want to solve this jealousy and insecurity with her. What can I do? I love her and I have asked her what I can do yet she doesn’t have an answer for me. I’m not going to throw away a ten year friendship with my friend for no reason, but I need to find a way to get past this with my girlfriend. Any suggestions? Thanks!

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Terry Ross asked:


Jealousy in marriage is destructive, a real relationship killer and one of those common marriage problems that needs to be resolved.

In you let feelings of jealousy develop and escalate the mind will run wild, imagine the enemy around every corner, question everything your partner thinks, says and does. In worst case scenario’s unresolved and unchecked jealousy has developed beyond the end of a relationship, into a long-term vendetta and in extreme cases extended to the loss of life.

As much as we would like to deny it, most people struggle with jealous emotions at some point in their lives and, in marriage, it is a one of those common marriage problems that can develop from feelings of insecurity or neglect.

We now live in a society where marriages are often as a result of a second, a fifth or any number of relationships and are, in many cases, second or subsequent marriages. This is just society as we now know it but it can leave spouses insecure, especially when a previous partner is still around, and particularly in the case when children are involved.

People can enter into marriages with so much previous baggage that it often hard to settle into a secure, trusting environment full of self worth and self-belief.

Marital jealousy develops from numerous situations and no matter how much you try and tell yourself there is no need for concern your mind just doesn’t listen and all the while your partner continues with the behaviour that is instilling the feeling of insecurity throughout your very soul.

Some people are natural flirts who draw the opposite sex like magnets, which, once the ring is on the finger, leaves partners totally insecure and just waiting for the moment when they are dumped for the next person that comes along. The partner who flirts often has no idea what impact their actions have on their relationship. They don’t actually believe that they are doing anything wrongs but perceive their actions to be friendly and not harmful.

No one could ever be accused of being unnecessarily jealous in the case of infidelity beyond which, if the marriage survives (and in many instances they do), strong measures need to be put in place to enable the cheated partner come to trust their partner again and control the feeling of jealousy.

Following the break up of a marriage children need to feel that the split isn’t as a result of anything that they have done. This leaves parents over protective, desperate to make amends for one parent environment and often at the expense of new relationships.

Another of the common marriage problems is that husbands feel neglected when a new baby arrives no matter how much they wanted the child in the first place. A baby’s mere existence is totally life changing with more attention towards the child and a complete nose dive’ in marital relations. With the bond between mother and child being that much closer it can leave fathers feeling neglected, unwanted and a total spare part.

With friends of mine the jealousy actually worked the other way with the wife feeling totally trapped after the birth of their first child and her husband spending all his time looking after the baby. She just yearned for the life they had prior to children when they enjoyed a good social life and spent all their free time together.

Too much time at work can leave your partner feeling very insecure, especially when your hours at work increase and you spend less and less time at home for the sake of your family but if we think about it is it really for the sake of the family…..

People get fixated on their goals and have no concept on how this is perceived or how it impacts on their relationship and their family life.

Without the 100% backing of both parties, long hours and continuous travel can prove to be a real relationship killer and, if left unchecked, one of those common marriage problems from which there is no return.

The list is endless and jealousy in and of itself is not a bad thing, it’s strong indication that you really care. The main thing we need to remember is not to let the jealousy consume, arouse fury and become destructive.

If you are suffering from feelings of jealousy look at the cause, question your feelings and determine whether they have any foundation. Is your partner actually doing anything wrong, have they really done anything to drive your jealous emotions or have you just let your emotions spiral out of control.

If the fault is on your side, learning to recognise the fact is the first step towards controlling such an emotional and destructive thought process. It allows you to discuss your fears with your partner, explain how you feel and seek there help in enabling you to over come your jealous emotions, strengthen your marriage and build a more solid foundation for the future.

Communication is the foundation to marital success. If you can learn to communicate then you can express your emotions in a non-confrontational, non-accusatory, understanding and supportive environment.

Don’t just blurt your fears out such as I think you are having an affair’ it might not be true and it will just add fuel to the fire. Explain that something seems to have changed in your relationship, explain what has changed and what makes you think your marriage is different, don’t blame, don’t get emotional just explain to your spouse what is going through your head and seek their help in trying to sort it out.

One of the most common marriage problems is expecting our partners to always know what we want and how we feel. But even with a ring on our finger we aren’t always mind readers, if we haven’t communicated our feelings and our partner doesn’t know they have, in our eyes, done something wrong, how do we expect them to do anything about it!

Tell them now, save your marriage before its too late. You have everything to gain and nothing to lose. Even if the answer isn’t what you want to hear knowledge is power and with knowledge comes the ability to turn your life around.

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FRANCIS K GITHINJI asked:


Marriage is mostly as a result of friendship, love and compatibility. Each others company is of paramount importance in marriage. You share so much in common and have invested a lot in your marriage to let it go down in flames. Marriage help can save all that binds you together and ensure that you remain intact. Monogamy is the way to go for many marriages but as a way to offer failing marriage help, many are opting for open relationships. If as a couple you have realized that your marriage problem is called by monotony, try open relationships. They have a way of turning around failing marriages to ones that work. All the problems are solved and the love is renewed once again. The marriage blossoms and you grow grey together.

Open relationship is an arrangement where couples agree to have sexual partners outside marriage while their marriage still remains intact. Both couples have to be comfortable with such an arrangement. One thing you should maintain to embrace such failing marriage help is honesty. It is the virtue which made you to agree and propose the arrangement so do not hide about the number of sexual encounters you have had at a given period of time. Talk it all and have fun. Openness in such intimate matters allow communication to flow in all other areas in your marriage including finances.

You should be keen to rule out jealousy in open relationships. If you are are the type of people who suffer from chronic jealousy you should stick to monogamy. To go for such failing marriage help avoid insecurity. Open relationships require self confidence, confidence in the your spouse and in your marriage too. It won’t work for you if you tend to think that your spouse might find someone else who she/he might like better than you. If your marriage lacked in the area of sex, you are outsourcing the service to make it complete. I am sure you must be compatible in all other areas and you should trust that what brings you together is unique. It must be greater than sex.

For open relationships to work as a failing marriage help, set some ground rules to work with. You should agree on the venues for sexual encounters with other partners. For instances you can agree to bring your lovers in your house but set aside the bed room as for the two of you only. You can as well agree to keep the house out of bounds for the third parties. Such open talks brings you even closer it is unbelievable. What about coming up with a veto list? This is a list of proposed people to involve in your open relationship. Even the most jealous proof partner will be uncomfortable with his/her partner having sex with some people. Agree on the class, age and other categories of your sexual partners. While at this, agree on the type of contraceptive to use to avoid bringing more problems to your marriage. Birth control is important if lack of kids is not the reason for your failing marriage.

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Richard MacKenzie asked:


Do you find yourself sneakily checking your partner’s phone or mail? Are you forever questioning your loved one on their whereabouts, even if they have just been to the local shop? Do you find yourself tormented by thoughts of your lover with someone else? Well if you do then you will understand just how savage your jealousy can be towards your relationship and how it can take its toll on your partner as well as yourself. Jealousy and insecurity are two massive problems facing our modern day culture and if you are a victim then you are not alone as they are two of the biggest reasons for relationship break-ups and divorce today!

Hello I am hypnotherapist and author of Self Change Hypnosis, Richard MacKenzie and for the past several years I have helped thousands of couples with overcoming jealousy, both through my private hypnotherapy practice and through my products and book. When I first approach the topic of using hypnosis to combat jealousy, people seem a bit puzzled; however it is the ‘common-sense’ approach – what with its speed and efficiency. In fact these same people are very often amazed when they get the results that they yearn for.

While in Hypnosis you will learn to ultimately re-program the part of the brain that is referred to as your sub- conscious or un-conscious mind. This is where the habit and behaviour of jealousy are, so therefore it is the best place to start. After this you can use hypnosis to begin to work on your overall confidence and self esteem levels which will really work for you to get you some great results. Just imagine what life would be like if your jealousy disappeared – How great would your relationship be? How much more secure would you feel, knowing your can accept the wholehearted love of your partner without being suspicious?

If you could achieve all this right now… would you?

Well if you really want help and you desire to get your jealousy sorted then hypnosis or hypnotherapy is just the right thing for you. I recommend that you start with a hypnosis download, recording or seek out your local hypnotherapist who will be more than happy to help you out.

Remember – you are not alone. Thousands of people out there today are in the same boat; however you’re the one reading this so you have a chance to escape your jealousy forever.

Best of luck!

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