Abhishek asked:


I have some inherent very bad qualities like jealousy, insecurity and lack of self-confidence which is preventing me to be a better person or enter into a relationship. I have tried a lot of things but the results have been next to nil. Can you please suggest some way out of this dillemma? Thanks in advance.

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ericgeyer asked:


I am in a relationship with my girlfriend and I have a close platonic friend who is a girl who I’ve known for about 10 years now and my girlfriend thinks I have feelings for her when I don’t. Her and I are close because we’ve known each other for so long. My gf has a lot of close guy friends that I have absolutely no problem with. I want to solve this jealousy and insecurity with her. What can I do? I love her and I have asked her what I can do yet she doesn’t have an answer for me. I’m not going to throw away a ten year friendship with my friend for no reason, but I need to find a way to get past this with my girlfriend. Any suggestions? Thanks!

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braysgurl18 asked:


Ive never been this jealous in my life as I am now, 4 months pregnant, theres this girl always hanging around my fiance, shes married but she flirts a lot, yesterday he was going to paint my truck with her, but he said it was somehting him and I could do, luckily the tire was popped, lol so they couldnt, but she seems to be everywhere, anyone know how to get over jealousy? I ve told him I dont really like her and he makes me feel so bad by telling me how nice she is and how much shes helping me out when I move to Viginia, makes her sound like God, and me and ungrateful biatch. So any tips on getting rid of this feelings?
you guys are so awesome thank you soo much, i wish I could give you all ten points… Thanks for understanding, I just needed to hear wome good ideas of how to handle this and you guys were amazing thank you soo much

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Lance Taylor asked:


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There is nothing more pathetic and unattractive than jealousy. I have yet to find anything productive that comes from being jealous. It makes you do stupid things, and it makes her stop liking you.

Here is something that you MUST accept… If she is going to cheat on you, raging jealousy will only speed along the process. It certainly won’t stop her. You have to develop the attitude that “if she’s going to cheat on me, I want it to happen.” That way you can move on to better things.

Yes, as with anything, sometimes a person will respond well to you showing a little emotion. But trust me, you are MUCH better off never being jealous than searching for just the right amount of jealousy.

The reason is that jealousy automatically signals insecurity. And nobody wants to be with someone that is insecure. Girls want to be with the catch, the prize, someone who knows he’s got a lot to offer. They don’t want to be with someone who thinks she is going to leave him for every guy she talks to. And here’s a hint, if you let her know you’re afraid of her leaving you, then she probably will.

You must keep your life that you had before you started dating. This will help tremendously with jealousy. Jealousy usually comes as the result of not having any other options. When you are that afraid of losing someone, every little thing can be seen as a threat. So you have to keep your life outside of the relationship strong. I’m not saying you should keep other girls on the line, but you should know that you can go out and get another girl the next day if you have to. If you have a great life, you won’t freak out over the little things, because you will be fine no matter what happens.

Put yourself in her shoes. If you talk to someone of the opposite sex, it doesnt mean that you are interested in them. The same goes for her. Just because she has friends of the opposite sex, or talks to them occasionally, doesnt mean that she is going to cheat on you. But if you throw a fit every time she does it, it might actually push her away.

So keep your mind off of these paranoid thoughts by staying busy with other interests, and looking at things outside of your emotions. If you can keep this attitude, or at least act like it. You will be more attractive to your partner and your relationships will prosper.

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Marylin Stompler asked:


Losing weight is not just about being on a diet or working out as proven by the large number of unsuccessful diets and workout programs. First, you need to discover the many M.E.S.S. blocks (Mental, Emotional, Subconscious, and Spiritual blocks) that prevent you from losing weight and then let them go. These M.E.S.S. blocks are distorted beliefs, thoughts, or fears that prevent your weight loss. If you do not get rid of these M.E.S.S. blocks, you will keep having an extremely hard time losing weight and, if you succeed, you will always regain the weight.

There is so much jealousy in this world that if you are too attractive, the people around you may become jealous, and you could end up with friends who drag you down, or with no friends at all.

If you lose a lot of weight, many people around you will most likely be happy that you lost the weight, but some of them will also be jealous and intimidated by your new good looks. When you make positive changes, your spirit rises and you will not connect as well with family members, friends, and peers if they stay the same.

Your family, friends, and peers may not be comfortable with the new “thin” you because they do not know how to handle you, and, honestly, they may not be comfortable with the fact that you are thin and they are not. Of course, they will not have the guts nor the desire to let you know that they don’t like the new thin you. Instead, they will often criticize you and try to bring you back to where they are, that is, to once more become overweight. If you return to your overweight state of being, they will be able to relate to you and to be comfortable with you again but most of all they will feel better about themselves.

So, you need to be ready for this lack of support and to stand up for what you worked hard to achieve. You need to feel that you deserve 100 % to be thin so that you do not reverse back to your original overweight state. Often, we opt to remain overweight to avoid jealousy and maintain peace with our family members, friends, and peers. We decide to remain fat to maintain peace. How sad…

I strongly advise you to let go of this M.E.S.S. block, put yourself first, be ready to let go of friends and peers who do not support your life successes, and surround yourself with new friends who fully support the new you.

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FRANCIS K GITHINJI asked:


May be you are too jealous but as you might have realized, it does not come by choice. It is a strong emotion which works you up to regrettable levels. May be you are the kind of a person that does very stupid things at the heat of the moment and you are left embarrassed. You might spot your lover with a prospectus boss, start hailing abuses and may be even get physical. This is a dangerous level which might drive your lover away from you unless it is kept in check. To overcome jealousy in romantic relationships in romantic relationships, you must first of all discover the root of the disturbing emotion. Did she cheat on you once? Does the other person shower him with overflowing favors? It will do you good if you understand the root of insecurity.

To overcome jealousy in romantic relationships in romantic relationships, learn how to handle competition. Attractive people are approached for dating all the time. Accept what you cannot change and walk around it. To remain top on the list you must be able to beat others who might be in competition for her/his love. Jealousy will only eat you up and leave you feeling bad, sad and unloved. Do not walk in the shadow of ignorance. If you do not reveal your jealousy, you will learn so much about your lover. He/she will voluntarily tell you about who is chasing after him or her but just with a light touch. Your reaction might determine what should be communicated to you in the future. If you are abreast with his/her admirers you are way step ahead because you have a chance to beat them before they start their game. To overcome jealousy in romantic relationships encourage openness in a relationship.

To overcome jealousy in romantic relationships, talk about it. When your lover knows that it is makes you uneasy when you are in a company of some people, he/she is a position to do a lot to save you the agony. She might start flirting with you when the company is around and may be the public show of affection will reduce your insecurity thus help you overcome jealousy in romantic relationships. She is best placed to assure you her love and take it a step further by announcing it to the whole world. Do not die with your feelings. Confess what your love for her is driving at. Chances are it will do you more good than harm. Off course when you declare your emotions it will be a sure sign of love and affection towards her.

Why i encourage communication is because some things we do as human beings are intentional. Your lover might be subjecting you to so much heartache in a mission to prove a thing. These are games lovers play. Some believe that a jealous lover is a true lover. Due to the rising levels of betrayal and malice in the dating scene, people are keen to look for real love. She might be raining praises about another gentleman just to watch your reaction. If you respond positively, the subjection stops and life continues. If you consider it a weakness and persevere you are subjected to more. Do not overcome jealousy in romantic relationships on your own. Involve your lover and you might even discover it was not your weakness after all.

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Jerry Leung asked:


It is fun to have a threesome. However, one thing that can probably come with the fun is certainly jealousy. Yes it is true that your partner can easily have jealousy in a threesome. This is because you will be having intimate relationship with a third person in front of him / her.

However, do you know the actual reasons of jealousy in a threesome?

In fact, your partner may probably think that you will not be interested in a threesome if you really love him / her. You partner will think that your interest in having intimate relationship with a third person will imply that you do not love him or her. As a result, he / she may have jealousy when you propose a threesome.

In this case you have to explain to your partner that seeking for fantasies in sex does not necessarily mean that you do not love your partner. This is very important. Although you are going to have a threesome, the one you actually love is your partner but not the third person you are going to have threesome with. Your partner will be a lot more relaxed if he or she can understand this thoroughly.

On the other hand, you partner may also have a feeling that you do not satisfy with his / her performance on the bed. And this makes you propose a threesome. Yet, performance on the bed and having a threesome are two different issues. Again, a threesome is your fantasy in sex. It does not really relate to the performance of your partner on the bed.

In fact, I will suggest you not to propose a threesome if you do not satisfy with your partner’s performance. If you do not satisfy with his or her performance in sex, you should talk about it with your partner and try to find ways to solve the problem. Proposing a threesome will not help to solve the problem.

You have to tell your partner there is nothing wrong with the performance on the bed. A threesome is just a fantasy in sex and there is nothing to do with the performance on the bed.

Having a threesome is full of fun. However, the fun should be built on the trust of your partner. Both of you and your partner, as well as the third person, should enjoy the fantasy of threesome. Otherwise there is no point to engage in a threesome.

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