David Butler asked:


Are you dating a person known to be jealous? Jealousy is one of the most destructive and painful emotions in a dating relationship. A jealous dater can think and do some whacky things he or she would not normally think of doing. That’s why overcoming jealousy when it crops up is so important. According to a North American survey of marriage counselors, 33% of all couples in marriage counseling have jealousy problems as a root issue. Since jealousy is a univesral emotion, I suspect European, Asian, African, South American Asian couples have similar dealings with jealousy.

Among Christian single couples, jealousy affects both traditional dating and courtship love relationships.

Many folks who are jealous daters also deal with being control freaks. Just what does it mean to be jealous? Webster’s Dictionary rightly defines jealousy as a “fearfulness or wariness of being replaced by a rival.” In a dating or romantic relationship, this means the jealous girlfriend or jealous guy suspects there is a rival for the affection or attention of their partner. The object of the dater’s jealousy could be an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend, (the most frequent complaint) or other things such as the person’s children, job or even the family dog. (Don’t laugh about the dog, I once had a Family Court case related to this issue)

The problem with jealousy is that there are several kinds, which can get a little confusing. For example, there is God’s jealousy (Exodus 20:5), which is always holy, just, and desirous of others’ wellbeing. Then there is human jealousy, which often ends with disasterous results. Solomon writes of this kind in Song of Songs: “Jealousy is as cruel as the grave” (Sgs 8:6).

As sinners, we all need to learn how to cope with the human kind of jealousy, whether we experience it in our own hearts, or have others being jealous of us.

Most singles are able to control the acting out their jealous impulses. However, overcoming jealousy for others is almost impossible without God’s help. This form of jealousy is pathological, and could lead to the crimes of passion we often read about in the newspapers, or see in movies.

As a single Christian seeking true love in a relationship, it’s very important for your own dating safety to know some “red flag” signs of a pathologically jealous person.

Red Flags of Jealousy Out of Control

* The dating or courtship partner continually accuses the other of being unfaithful when there is no basis for him or her to think this way.

* The jealous person checks phone bills, emails or the cell phone directory to check the partner’s records of communication. They may even forbid their romantic partner to speak with certain members of the opposite sex.

* The jealous dating partner forbids (ie: orders) the other single dater what he or she can and cannot wear in public.

* The person with jealousy issues may go through the personal belongings of the other party looking for “evidence” of unfaithfulness

* The person with out-of-control jealousy may follow, or have one of their friends follow the other person to make sure they are being faithful. In extreme cases they may even ‘bug” the home using electronic equipment.

* The jealous party will keep tabs on their date by calling them constantly throughout the day. They may give an excuse (”I just missed you”) as to why they are calling so frequently, but in fact are distrustful of them.

* The jealous person may want to be with the other person 24/7, and if the other single resists, there may be a physcial or emotional outburst.

* The jealous dating partner forces the other to give account of all their free time away from them.

* The person with pathological jealousy may threaten to do physical harm to themselves or to their dating partner.

If you are a single Christian in any kind dating relationship where one or more of the above jealousy red flags exist, we recommend:

1. Lovingly communicating to your friend that they need professional help.

2. Consider getting out of the relationship as soon as you can to ensure your own safety. While you may be tempted to stay in an effort to change them, or the jealous partner may make an emotional promise of change, please don’t give in.

Overcoming Jealousy

Overcoming jealousy will be easier if you understand its origin. Ask yourself: “Do my feelings have a basis in fact (the behavior of the dating partner), or are they coming from my own insecurity?”

If there is actually something the other party is doing that is inciting you to be jealous, have a heart to heart discussion with them. Often, an honest exchange of feelings will solve the problem.

Understand that your jealous behavior may actually drive away your date, the very thing you feared might happen

Admit you have a problem and seek guidance from trusted freinds who know your situation, and/or an understanding Christian counselor or minister.

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Richard MacKenzie asked:


Do you find yourself sneakily checking your partner’s phone or mail? Are you forever questioning your loved one on their whereabouts, even if they have just been to the local shop? Do you find yourself tormented by thoughts of your lover with someone else? Well if you do then you will understand just how savage your jealousy can be towards your relationship and how it can take its toll on your partner as well as yourself. Jealousy and insecurity are two massive problems facing our modern day culture and if you are a victim then you are not alone as they are two of the biggest reasons for relationship break-ups and divorce today!

Hello I am hypnotherapist and author of Self Change Hypnosis, Richard MacKenzie and for the past several years I have helped thousands of couples with overcoming jealousy, both through my private hypnotherapy practice and through my products and book. When I first approach the topic of using hypnosis to combat jealousy, people seem a bit puzzled; however it is the ‘common-sense’ approach – what with its speed and efficiency. In fact these same people are very often amazed when they get the results that they yearn for.

While in Hypnosis you will learn to ultimately re-program the part of the brain that is referred to as your sub- conscious or un-conscious mind. This is where the habit and behaviour of jealousy are, so therefore it is the best place to start. After this you can use hypnosis to begin to work on your overall confidence and self esteem levels which will really work for you to get you some great results. Just imagine what life would be like if your jealousy disappeared – How great would your relationship be? How much more secure would you feel, knowing your can accept the wholehearted love of your partner without being suspicious?

If you could achieve all this right now… would you?

Well if you really want help and you desire to get your jealousy sorted then hypnosis or hypnotherapy is just the right thing for you. I recommend that you start with a hypnosis download, recording or seek out your local hypnotherapist who will be more than happy to help you out.

Remember – you are not alone. Thousands of people out there today are in the same boat; however you’re the one reading this so you have a chance to escape your jealousy forever.

Best of luck!

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Shanat Kuphur asked:


Jealousy is a kind of feeling, which develops when a person believes that his/her valued relationship is threatened by some kind of insecurity. It mainly comes because of the insecurity of the jealous person. The causes of jealousy are more mental than physical. The feeling of jealousy is also considered to be a negative emotion and there are mainly two causes, which lead to jealousy. The first cause of jealousy can be attributed to the insecurity problem, which is mostly seen in such cases. This mainly happens when you are too sensitive by nature and often feel unsecured about the future.

Often it is seen that marital relations come to an end because of this particular feeling of jealousy. Communication is the root cause of jealousy in marital life. You should sort things out with your partner before things worsen to the core. You need to sit and discuss issues with your partner rather than assume things in worst possible way. However there’s times when you may not even know why jealousy is a part of your life or you’re actually emoting jealousy so often. In fact the situation could be such that you don’t even realize that you are so jealous.

Whether through self-realization or with the help of outside help you begin to pay attention to your jealous traits, it’s time you do something about it. Because in due course of time this will worsen your relationship with many loved ones around you. Don’t let your insecurities bring about your end.

Overcoming jealousy is no longer so difficult. It’s a pathological or mental condition that can go a long way in bringing about great disturbance in your physical well being. Help yourself today. If you think it’s a problem that will just resolve itself, no it wont. You need to be able to get out of the jealous trip and Hypnosis will be just right for you. Yes hypnosis, if you thought it was just a concept that you watched in movies and that the crystal maze was just for the heck of it, well it’s time you think again. Hypnosis is a contemporary treatment option but has been around from the early days. It was always used as a parallel source of treatment in varied societies.

Uncover the power of hypnosis in overcoming jealousy. Download your version and get started right away the benefits are many and you’ll learn along the way. The best thing being you don’t have to spend time going for sessions and trying to schedule your treatment into your busy life. You can begin your betterment right at home. This will help you regain confidence and better your relationship with those around you, especially siblings and loved ones.

Of course, deciding to face your jealousy head on can be a very daunting experience, however it is not as daunting as not doing anything about it and effectively choosing to spend every day with it for the rest of your life!

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Richard MacKenzie asked:

Overcoming Jealousy is one thing that all sufferers want to achieve. Jealousy is one of the cruellest behaviours that someone can conflict on themselves and their friends and family around them. If you suffer from jealousy at the moment you will understand exactly what I mean and just how devastating it can be to yourself and your relationships with people that you love.

Each and every year in my Hypnotherapy clinic here in Oxfordshire I treat hundreds of individuals and couples that have suffered at the hands of jealousy for years. By the time that they come and see me the jealousy has certainly taken its toll on everything that they love and care about. It is amazing that something that starts off in our imagination can soon spark out of control and cause such devastating damage.

Jealousy can be caused by many things; however it nearly always sparks from some type of insecurity. I have worked with many individuals where their jealousy started because of their partner having an affair. I have also treated individuals that put the whole thing down to being bullied at school or a parent leaving when they were young. Whatever the reason – if jealousy is not dealt with then it will grow and cause major problems within current and future relationships.

With clients that want my help in overcoming jealousy I use Hypnotherapy and Emotional Freedom Technique. Both therapies are very successful in treating jealousy. The Emotional Freedom Technique can work fast to alleviate all of the negative emotions associated with jealousy, while the Hypnotherapy can help them to rebuild their lives.

If used over only a short period of time, Hypnotherapy and Emotional Freedom technique can help you to completely overcome your jealousy and to move on in your life. Just imagine being able to do all of the things that make you happy instead of having all of those negative thoughts and emotions running around inside your head. Imagine not having to obsess and worry over every little thing.

So if jealousy is a problem for you and you would love to get rid of it and move on, then these treatments could be right for you. When picking a practitioner, make sure that they are fully qualified and insured, either contact a local Hypnotherapy or Emotional Freedom Technique organisation to get more information and to find a practitioner that is local to you.

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Mark Goodworthy asked:


Time has flown by so fast and many things have changed. Lives of people have become so fast-paced that somehow things like love and happiness have taken a backseat to career, business or money. Communications are centered not on how to foster relationships but on how to make the money tree grow.

Because of this, quite a lot of things have been taken for granted and people are slowly shying away from emotions that are the core of living. As a result, many feelings are harbored inside and these include regret, resentment and even the lurking green-eyed monster, jealousy.

This purely negative feeling that is known as jealousy is not only limited to your insane urge to grab at the hair of the woman your husband or boyfriend has been seeing behind your back. Jealousy could also be applied to the feelings of resentment that you have over the promotion of your colleague or your husband. It is also your inability to express your anger over why your husband treats your kid with more respect than he does you.

For those who are under the spell of this green-eyed monster, jealousy is a feeling that devastates them to the core and even results in them feeling great extent of anguish and pain. However, jealousy will not only affect the people who feel it, but also the people who surround them. Even if they try their hardest to hide their jealousy, it will always come out by the way they treat the people around them and how they will just allow it to ruin lives and relationships.

The basic approach to overcoming jealousy is knowing the reason behind it and understanding why it is happening. Usually, jealousy boils down to low self-esteem, insecurities and even huge love for a partner. While it is really great to love your partner so much, remember that anything that borders on the extreme is also bad and could just lead to hurt and devastation. Low self-esteem and insecurities are also two components of jealousy that should be gotten rid of.

If you are really intent on seeking help for your jealous tendencies, then maybe you could ask a hypnotherapist to treat you. Through hypnosis, your therapist will be able to go beyond the barriers that are keeping you from thinking positive thoughts. He will be able to delve into the negative blocks that are lodged in your subconscious and ease them out until you will be free of them. Once this happens, you are already able to overcome the lowness of your self-esteem as well as break away from your insecurities.

Then, all your jealous feelings will just fly out the window. Once the green-eyed monster is gone, you will finally be able to foster a relationship that is based on confidence and trust and be free from the anguish of always doubting.

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